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Talking is gone for now.
Just because I exposed her A to my family and I'm the bad guy.


She may stay pi$$ed about it for quite a while, or until she can demonize you enough to persuade her parents' that you are the bad guy. But, whatever, you have no control over her relationships. You don't have to ignore them or totally cut them out of your life, but until things are settled, just remember that they are her parents.

There are many hills and valleys on this journey. Don't expect it to stay the same all the way down the road. She may wake up with a different personality/mood every other day. One common thread, she is only interested in what benefits her the most. It takes priority over everything else.

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Got huge amount of support from family and friends who messaged from Facebook after seeing her rants about me. People are concerned for me.


My suggestion is not to have a FB bashing. I'm sure it must be tempting to reply to her mean/untrue remarks, but this is the mother of your children, and there is no need to publicly tear her down. I say "publicly" b/c you never know who is reading social media. You don't have to defend yourself, and it's not a popularity contest.

Also, I would spare your parents of too many details about your W's affair. If the MR is reconciled, it could make the relationship with your parents very sticky for her. I'm not suggesting you lie or cover up, but just be careful about running her down. If emails are not the only source of communication, you may want to consider blocking her......and blocking her from FB. As long as she is raging against you, you'll be tempted to reply with "truth darts".

If I were in the shoes of a LBH who had a WW, I know it would be a miracle to keep my mouth shut when she started sounding off. smirk However, your W knows the truth, and there is no point of reminding her of her bad behavior. The truth darts would probably only heighten the argument.

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What kills me is her stubborness, selfishness and inability to apologize but thats always been there I guess.


If this ^^^^^^^^^^^^ is nothing new for her, then don't expect it from her in the near future. Has she always had a sense of entitlement?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!