I am so sorry that you are having such a difficult time w/your h and him packing and picking up his "stuff". I know just how you feel. It really does hurt, like pouring salt into an open wound, but it will get better in time.
Your h has left his "stuff" behind because he doesn't need it at this time or may not ever need it again because it is a reminder of his "old" life and as long as you don't care if it stays there...then he'll leave it there. His empathy chip is broken and doesn't realize how his "stuff" serves as a daily reminder that he's gone.
Your new chapter is beginning and as peace has pointed out, the ending can change many times before you can finish writing this new chapter. However, moving forward seems very appropriate at this time. You've found your footing and have begun to detach more and have done things a bit differently this holiday season.
Coly, shed those tears and know that those tears are helping to heal your wounds. It's okay and you and your daughter will be okay. His "stuff" is just that "stuff". Always remember, you had the best years of his life.
BTW, you have one intelligent daughter. Listen to her. She's not as close to the situation as you are and can see things that you can't see at the moment.
Sending you warm hugs.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
