However, bc I am rolling NC/Dark, and set boundaries basically (I will not engage in this R until I have this, that, and the other); do I need to ignore this?
You just said you are in NC, so why ask about replying every time she sends a text? NC is no contact.......period.
Do not start worrying about validating. You are having trouble with just NC, so don't start with that stuff. Like I previously said, it's as if you are seeking an excuse to text her. Nothing like using validation as a good excuse, right? No!
Yes, she is playing the guilt card, which is manipulation. I'm beginning to think that's all she knows. She is having a big pity party. But she brought this on herself. Don't you see how she makes it all about her and her feelings? If she refers to you, it is to guilt you. Just consider it for what it is...........another temp check.
When she stops the temp testing and guilting, and actually apologizes for the incredible pain she has caused you........and starts asking how you are doing, instead of focused on herself, then perhaps you can risk a response. But so far, that hasn't happened.
She is going to turn up the heat, so get ready.
Do not respond!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
