Yah, I feel that urge, too. W commented today my desire to set up the apartment was me needing to feel some control in the situation, but that we should ser it ip together.
Well at least she wants to do something with you. Mine just wants to lomit our communication to bare minimum.
Today she told me.last minute that she arranged a babysitter after the time we agreed I will stay home with kids. Like if I could not stay couple of hours longer. She difinitely meets up with OM and did not want me to be around when she returns.
I feel the urge to confront it with her. At least if I know for sure she is dating it might be easier for me to let her go.