W did use the word "controlling" as one of her complaints. I guess for me, it was difficult to know whether we were making decisions together or debating to make decisions. Probably the latter, which leaves the person who “loses” the debate resentful. More mindful of this now, and trying to improve in this area. I do wish she had complained that I was controlling when she felt I was rather than bottling it up and using it against me now.
