Personally, I'd advise against giving her the whole blueprint on what you're thinking and what she needs to do. My thoughts are that it's too soon for that as she's just looking to do anything to return to status quo vs. really work on things.

By the way, in the summer of 2015 during that brief time my h moved back into the MBR, he asked me to write down specifically what he needed to do! It was very strange. He had already written me a horrible and utterly ridiculous letter detailing what I needed to do. I didn't write back, but I did talk with him. He said he really wanted a letter so that he could remember what he was supposed to be doing. They really are quite lost. He wanted me to prop him up.

My two cents is keep it really shirt simple, a few sentences and that's it.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced