The thing is though, i feel almost like I should be the one to drive separation/D forward now since she doesn't seem to be able to make up her mind and I on the other hand have gathered that we are only delaying the inevitable in the sense that she has to go through that long tunnel by herself anyways and that us staying together in our house will not enable her to change as quickly as she could if that makes sense?
I mean, wouldn't it just speed up the process of her living her new life, figuring out who she is and what she wants out of life if she moved out instead of moping around here with me for god knows how long to then very likely end up in the same play ANYWAY?
Just throwing thoughts around here really as i am trying to figure out MY next move!
This would enable HER to move on/grow into a different person AND myself right? It's gonna be painful for our son no matter what so maybe THIS would be the best course of action? I'll think about suggesting to her to sell the house (even if she is attached to the idea of staying here with our son) so she can start over somewhere else (with our son) That way at least, my son won't see me as the ONLY changing factor (aka the bad guy that left the family in his eyes).
