Gordie - One of the things that I do when faced with a difficult problem is to "turn it upside down" and look at it from the other direction.
From some interpretations of the definition - you are now the walk away spouse. There's a play-book and script for that. You could tell her that you need some space and time to identify what it is that you want for your future. So far the narrative has all been her her her.
One thing I like about this is that it is very likely true. You probably do need some space and time to figure out what you want. One of the phrases my ex used was that she "needed to get away from all the noise".
You may want to talk to your counselor but I would honestly think that the two of you taking a break from the stress and drama will allow you both an opportunity to think about what you really do want for your futures.
Just my opinion. We're your pit crew, but you are the man driving the car.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
