Hi Gordie, yes sounds like she is ramping up efforts to draw you in. My view is that she needs to have been OM free for a good while and have been working on herself to understand what made her behave in such a destructive way.

If you haven't done so already, I would encourage you to have a look at Cali's thread. He had such a heartfelt plea from his W to try and reconcile, but it didn't work out because she was not fully baked yet.

The standard suggested answer is 'it really isn't that simple now.' I think. I can tell you from all that you have posted - this woman is not fully baked in any sense. There is no - I'm so sorry for what I have done, I truly regret this and I want to know how to try and make it right. It was wrong for you and for me on so many levels I realise that now.

But what you have is a bald - if I do X will you do Y? I think she doesn't want to have to deal with all that comes with you moving out personally...

Wait and see what others think though Gordie, maybe I'm being a little harsh?

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