There are recent studies suggesting long term A/D use is making people lose the ability to "love". Over time they quit feeling love for their spouse and even their children.
I'm another whose situation is similar (although I now understand many ways I contributed to the failure of my marriage). We still get along very well, socialize together, cooperate well with the kids, lived together for almost a year after filing, etc. She had no interest in sex, and still has no interest in pursuing a relationship of any kind with another man. We even discussed having an open marriage so we could continue to live together, and I could get sexual satisfaction elsewhere (an option I rejected after a few hours consideration).
My W has been on A/Ds for years, and now I'm wondering what part they might have played in the failure of our marriage. Interesting.
FastCars, living together while she wanted a D, and then having her move out was really hard, but in the end, I'm glad she did. I still want to reconcile, but the distance has allowed me to start detaching (I still have a long way to go), and move on with my life.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
