Sandi: I do see myself on that list. I don't disagree on the fact the things on the list aren't valid. But could the ultimate reason be the fantasy that the OP would fulfill all their dreams? Of course there is the reason to start dreaming about something else. And your list is more about that I think. Just an opinion. Not trying to know better or anything...
This is not about WW's or WAW's. The list has nothing to do with fantasies, an affair, or OM. Scratch that from your brain just for a minute. These are not excuses to find someone better. I don't want the discussion to go that direction. This is not about the W or her behavior. I am talking about the actions H's take that loses his W's attraction and respect. Just b/c he treats her in one of these ways does not mean she is going to run out and find another man! Some women may get a D and some may choose to live with it.
Someone asked me how H's lose respect, and my goal was to list some of those ways. Whether it seems fair or not, is a matter of opinion. Whether it is seen as a list of standards, excuses, or whatever........these are ways that harm a woman's respect for her H. How she chooses to respond is another subject.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
