Husband gone for the second time - 2

[Caz49]

Nicole, I'm in total agreement with Ownit. You need to see your therapist because your H is a Narcissist and you need strategies on dealing with this type of person.

You take on the blame for things that he's done to you...thinking you made him this way. My H is absolutely nowhere near like yours but I have the same tendencies to do this too. YOU are not responsible for the way HE behaves! My therapist said these type of people get even more unbalanced once you show them you won't be treated like dirt anymore. Once you start sticking up for yourself be prepared for a major backlash. But don't let that put you off.

Just be smart...maybe as OwnIt says...let H believe he's running the divorce, but have all your ducks in a row. You be smart and get what you need to support yourself and your daughter.

What he said about you and your daughter was despicable. End of. You are a lovely, wonderful woman and mother and have persevered and tried very hard to fix your marriage. You've done your very best. Do not beat yourself up for your H behaviour. Stop that now.

Get financial advice. Get to see your therapist. Everyone is here for you xx