Wife wont admit to affair, its driving me nuts! 2

[Morbo]

Wow, onto 2nd thread.
Here's the first...

Wife wont admit to affair PT 1

Thanks Surfer, Vanilla and Another Stander for all the recent advice.

Surfer said

Keep it up dude. I really admire what you are doing because I have done it and so have many, many others here and you will be fine. But you must stay hard focussed on your goals. And I don’t mean you need to be very prescriptive. Some need long lists. Personally, I needed to NC and stay out of any fights. Get to bed early; sleep well and exercise as much as you can.

You have incredibly switched on people here. Sandi in particular will tell you how the WW works. She is like a wizard - how does he know, because she was one! I don’t ever read anything but ‘adores’ for that lady. And V is a clinical thinker. Amazingly intelligent and a didactically talented person. She sees what she has expereinced from he abused party’s perspective. That lady is smart.

Me; I can only tell you what I know happened and how I reacted to very similar situations. What worked and didn’t.

You’ll be fine ultimately. However, do not underestimate the resolve you need and focus on some simple goals for now. Superyou, superdad and NC - certainly no acceptance tonrollercoaster invites.

Resolve is good, NC going fine. Detachment/Exercise/GAL...check.

Its kinda easier because W absolutely f**kin HATES me right me now.
When we meet to exchange the girls she texts me so she doesnt have to get out of the car. She just glares at me or barely acknowledges me.
Talking is gone for now.
Just because I exposed her A to my family and I'm the bad guy.

Doing great otherwise with girls, they're happy but they do find it weird their moms attitude to dad. She should just OWN her s**t but that would mean she's the bad guy, all her reasons for the split would be meaningless, in her eyes.
I dont ask girls ANYTHING about, what they do with W, if they see OM, only what they offer up.

Got huge amount of support from family and friends who messaged from Facebook after seeing her rants about me. People are concerned for me.

Looking forward to the weekend, going out with buddies tonight.

My parents coming in less than 2 weeks too.
Its going to be emotional but we're all so excited!

Wondered where this is all headed though.
She, or OM have not contacted my family or friends to defend their
"innocence". I know if it was ME, being wronged, that would be the first thing I would do, but then again, she's got nothing and now my family know a lot of the details. I had two really nice emails from BILs' who knew family members who went thru similar experiences and they gave me great support and some good insights.

Have a great weekend, everyone