New LBS dealing with WW Part 3

[Surfer]

No are you UK based?

Yes, you are in the danger zone. I’ve done it. I am now happy and my kids are. My wife is still the same but our R is better. Forget the danger zone, just know you can and will get through it. You absolutely have this, NC is bang on.

Get out alive is a bit strong. She will only about and rage most likely. She can do nothing else if you stay calm, if you stay out of her way she can’t really do that.

Suggest you keep your phone next to you in case you wish to pick it up and say “Stop this now, I am not going to get involved in arguing, I can film you doing this if you like!”

She is only frustrated like a teenager told she can’t go out. That is it. Keep that in your mind. Trivialise her actions don’t feer her. She is not bad, just frustrated and angry. Look at her with eyes of pity rather than anger.

If you need to say anything that validates. “Oh dear”, “yes I get it” type things. Don’t engage though she will have you in an argument In not time. Only she’s wins in this. This is the drama triangle. It’s a game. The only way you win is to exit the game. Don’t play it. See below. Not watched this in full - there are others.



You can not win this one either - if she states the 3rd party (ie a sympathetic party). She will rig the fight if she can.

Got to pop back to my family stuff. Will check in later.

Don’t freak about all this. I have done it. She is just trying to pressurise you. Do not fold. Just do a bit of ‘meh’!

Will catch up later.

Surfer.