I agree with Zues here. We tend to miss our own shortcomings and easily point the finger at other ones. On the fantasy element I think SoMe has a big influence. People showing a little fragment of their life and suddenly their life seems to be perfect all of the time.
Maybe I'm the one missing the point here, but let me try to clarify that the list has nothing to do with a fantasy or her wanting him to be like some other guy. It is his own consistent bad behavior that causes her to lose respect for him before she ever becomes a wayward or a WAW.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
