WW, wlc, Waw or What?

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Divorce, the gift that just keeps givtig. Need to vent..

Two weeks ago, I received a message from the dentist that D9 had to come in for the annual checkup (just to clarify how it works here - in the country I live in, kids have free access to the dentist plus more or less all communication with municipality (kids dentist etc) and government are handled electronically through a message system. We all have a unique mailbox for stuff like that) . The assigned date was in a daddy-week. Less than one hour later I received a new message "You have cancelled the appointment and have been re-scheduled for "a date three weeks later" . Obviously it was XW who had called them and re-scheduled for a date in her kids week. Without discussing with me. I didn't react or respond.

Each january it is time for the annual parent-teacher meeting for D9' class. We could choose between three different dates next week. It is done electronically through the school website. I decided to do nothing and just let XW choose (I didn't discuss with her, but just assumed she would pick one as she did last year - and she also just picked one of the assigned dates for D10's parent-teacher meeting). Today was the final day to pick a date and time, and since she hadn't picked one, and seeing there was only one available option left, I booked that one and instantly messaged her the time and date. She replied with "oh I already called the teacher last week and booked an appointment with the teachers two weeks from now (on a date that wasn't even one of the options) since I cannot attend next week. But just go on the date you picked ". Without informing me or asking whether the date and time she originally chose, was ok with me. I haven't responded.

If you look one or two posts up, you'll see how she transferred the kids savings to a new bank without consulting me first. So this seems to be an ongoing theme.

What to do... Should I continue my doormat-like behavior and just let her have her way, or is it time to do something about it? I mean, this is outright disrespectful isn't it? She is either provoking me on purpuse or simply dysfunctional...

I almost have the urge to contact the authorities and inform them that we obviously cannot co-parent, which would ultimately result in a 12-2 schedule either way (as opposed to the 7/7 schedule we have now). Neither of us are interested in that I'm sure, but I am fed up with her behavior and don't feel like being treated that way for the next 13,5 years. I could off course just text her and tell her that I'll do it next time, should she continue her behavior... None of the options keep the road home paved and smooth. But much more of this behaviour and there won't be a road home at all...

Any input on how to deal with this issue?