Adjusting to being a LBS....

[Subitai]

Subitai,

I read the quote above and then I skimmed through your thread. I think there's a very high probability that there's an OM. It all sounds too familiar.

I know everyone says that it doesn't matter if there's an OM; the approach is still the same. The approach may be the same, but I think it does matter whether or not there's an OM. I think your wife has a main squeeze and it ain't you.

I just realized an important discussion from my previously and now deleted thread is missing from this one.

A few days after telling me she wanted a D, she said that she wouldn't consider dating other people now cheating, so I could if I wanted to. I thought it was an incredibly bizarre thing to bring up then. I guess that is a big red flag, but she's not doing a bunch of the other stuff that I hear about WWs doing, like raging and screaming, ignoring kids, taking time off unexpectedly.

She does get a lot of text messages, but she always has because of work.

I do not want to snoop.

She's clearly in Grass is Greener mode, for whatever reason. MLC, EA/PA, or just stubbornly hanging on to the decision because it'd feel too guilty to back out of it... who knows.

However it turns out, I guess I should just maintain DBing, 180ing, and my IC, and focusing on the kids.