I agree with Zues here. We tend to miss our own shortcomings and easily point the finger at other ones. On the fantasy element I think SoMe has a big influence. People showing a little fragment of their life and suddenly their life seems to be perfect all of the time. At least that's what I saw in my W. Compairing our life to other peoples life in SoMe.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.