New LBS dealing with WW Part 3

[Vanilla]

Thank you for the honesty and it makes a great deal of difference to the support we can give you.

This is now antisocial behaviour and triangulation. Until this point I have not seen this in your sitch.

Triangulation in your case is using a third party agency to get in the middle. I am afraid it's classic tactics. And trust me it's awful behaviour as you are experiencing it.

So this does go beyond WW behaviour and into abuse.

Locking yourself in the bathroom is ideal, absolutely.

I like the fact that this was moderated by a third party. Please ensure you get the notes from that third party.

This is very important and I can not emphasise it enough. Get those notes have them corrected if they are off beam.

Do not leave your home. If she pulls this again then lock yourself in the bathroom. Record what she does when she tries to provoke you. It's abuse and she can be removed from the marital home.

Get yourself a protection order immediately as an emergency measure.

Surfer is spot on with his analysis and he has lived this too.

Where to go for support?

Obviously convo with your L ensure your L has experience with high conflict issues. Google Cordell who have resources on their website relating to D conflict. Try domestic violence and divorce podcast. False accusations.

This [censored] big time, having been through this I know that you keep calm. You have done nothing wrong, these accusations are false and making false claims is itself a criminal charge.

In your circumstances you will have to be proactive.

This is worse than initially described. And it hurts your heart unbelievably, I know so. Thankfully WH eventually left and the in house S in these circumstances is awful.

What I have observed is that it comes in waves, a large grand finale followed by a period of silence, then another gesture, be prepared and record. If possible film it.

If I could reach through and give you a hug at this point I would do so.

I am here.

V