Wow, that sounds so much like what my XW told me that it's downright eerie.
I don't understand either and listening to her say how great I am and our relationship doesn't make it any easier. I really believe this is her way of letting me down easy.
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
Is your W on A/D's?
No she is not on A/D's. She was depressed in 2013 timeframe. She works in healthcare and I remember her telling me she checked off on all the boxes for depression. But she never took anything.
She has started taking Estrogen. Sex was dwindling for about a year now, and a few months ago she told me because "sex felt muted" like she was underwater. It didn't feel the same anymore.
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
Anyway I think you are right in not wanting to be her best friend. My XW kept pushing that as well, she didn't want to keep living with me but she wanted to be besties and kept emphasizing what great parents we were and how we would continue to be a team for our kids. I made it clear to her that I didn't want to be besties thank you very much, even though I would continue to work together with her when it came to the kids.
My W has a fantasy about life after D that she can keep all the good things and not have to do the work to maintain a MR. So yes, I want to dispel this fantasy.
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
She's got to learn to miss you and that will never happen as long as she keeps living there (or in the back yard, LOL!) Maybe offer to build her a doghouse if she wants to live out back?
You are making me think what else can I do to withdraw given we're living together.
I did just finish building a chicken coop in the back. Perhaps she could live with all the hens? Where the chicken coop is located is the only place we could put a granny unit, and I would rather have the chickens out back than my ex-W.
