Mav, I really sympathize with the challenge of accepting that a relationship is broken without trying to do something to fix it. It's so hard to live with the guilt, the unknown, the pain. It seems the overarching lesson is that we can't fix anything until the other person also wants to fix it and there's nothing we can do about it except let them go and try to work on ourselves. That is true and believable. I've made a lot of mistakes with that though and now maybe it's too late in my case. Your situation might still improve if you can find a way to let your wife go just for a while. Maybe it's best not to think in terms of extremes - not forever but for a few weeks or months and then just sit and watch her actions while you work on improving yourself. Maybe it will still work out for you and your wife will change if you change first.
