Thanks for the reply job...

I am of the firm belief that things are never black and white but always a combination of several things (shades of grey), so in this case i do believe she is exhibiting clear signs of an MLC BUT i am also starting to see all the things i did wrong during our time together. The thing is, she DID come forward and tell me some of these things through signs, indications, h@ll her depressive states for years WERE signs of this crisis waiting to happen, only i brushed it off all too easily, ignorant of what was to come and how she was suffering.

I now see that i had this coming all along. That is not to say that she doesn't have her own issues to deal with of course, but all this doesn't change the fact that we have to deal with this situation now in our own ways.

18-24 months ago you say? Honestly i can't think of anything out of the ordinary around THAT specific timeframe... Her dad was sick and got worse during that time with a deadly illness but then he has been diagnosed 2 years prior already and only recently died 4 months ago and i doubt that was it. The worst time of our lives only started to happen a year ago when i had to take over a business and brought all the negative stress into our home (in addition to my sick mother) which poisoned the atmosphere constantly and made things almost unbearable.

What do you mean by cut my losses though? It's all so hard to manage and figure out at this point for me.

On the one hand i WANT to change and become a better person so that maybe one day she will see that and then realize we may have a future together as renewed personalities but that hope is incredibly slim.

On the other i am starting to see a life on my own now because i HAVE to face the reality that she is gone and will never come back.

Cling on to that last straw of hope or live free or is there a middle ground?

Not to speak of all the implications for our son and the financial troubles ahead which will further poison our relationship since neither of us really wants to gout of D screwed over financially.

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