The hardest thing right now is being able to detach so he does not hurt you. I can’t say what will work for you, but for me exercise (lots - good for seratonin and destroys cortisol). Talking to friends and NC.
I have little to add now. But I am reading and will help where I can.
None of us are perfect. I am not. Never beat yourself up. Just do your best to be wrong. Try mindfulness apps. Many are free.
Take care.
Surfer.
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