What I really want is closure, I’m having a difficult time just accepting how things ended, without having a single R conversation since we separated (and there was no sadness from her leading up to the separation).. I think what I want is to see some regret or sadness. I don’t like that I want it, I know I will never get it, but I think that is what I feel is missing.
AMEN AMEN AMEN. We ALL want closure, we ALL want to know "why". Unfortunately the only closure you will get is you letting go of the need for closure, if that makes sense. WAS's often don't even know why they do what they do themselves. They are confused, in turmoil, foggy. They may clear the fog and wonder what in the world they've done. A lot of them do just that. I remember one WAS posting here that the hardest thing for her to do in recon was to go back to all of her friends and family and explain to them why she was getting back together with the very man that she had been trash-talking for a year. She said it was so scary that she actually almost decided not to recon just so she could avoid it.
