I was actually thinking of going to the counseling and do the 180 there, by admitting that the relationship we had is over and we need to move forward to become a better parents by rebuilding the trust. The lack of trust toward me is the main issue I see now.

My W is not classical WAW as I have contributed to her decision by a huge margin. Might be I am overestimating it though.

@Sindi2 - I would love to hear your thoughts?