I quoted some of the messages between her and OM I found way back when (which is how I found out about the A). After quoting those messages, this is the text:
Oof! Well if you had posted that here before sending it to her we would of course have advised against sending it. It's cathartic to type that stuff out sometimes. But it serves no purpose to actually send it, because it's not going to result in any kind of a revelation to her. So we usually suggest posting it here, or typing an email and deleting it, or writing a note and burning it. Anyway at this point it's probably not hurting your sitch either, so no biggie.
