Wife wont admit to affair and its driving me nuts!

[Morbo]

Vanilla wrote

Abusers can kill in subtle ways as well as the more obvious ones.

Extreme self care, and I mean extreme self care is needed for you and your daughters. For a very long time possibly the rest of your life.

Great, I was just starting to have a good day. lol

Yeah, I can feel the burning rage, the insanity from her.
I know she wants to hurt me really badly in some way.

I'm doing everything you say. Saving texts, emails, conversations etc

I think the only way she may ever break out of this behaviour
is if there was an intervention of some sort.
Like if she sat down with both parents with the overwhelming evidence of the affair and its effects, especially on my daughters.
W really loved and respected my mom especially. I think if she was confronted by her she might crumble and reach that absolute rock bottom that Sandi talks about. Probably not at this stage though, she's too far gone.

This post is sobering, I've bought the book that Surfer suggested. Reading up on all this abuse stuff and there is no doubt in my mind that it is all about power for my wife and control over me.

I'll keep going, look after the girls and I'll see what tomorrow brings.