Hi Coconut, I'd like to know more about how it's going for you since it looks like I'll soon be divorced. Did your wife respond to your text messages? How can she not feel terrible about what she's done? You've been through so much. It seems like these spouses who leave are all exactly the same. Not sorry, don't care, and only thinking of themselves.
Before I met my husband I had one long-term, long-distance relationship in my 20's that ended in an unexpected engagement that lasted two weeks. I then broke it off because I could see that the marriage wouldn't work. I would have to give up my dreams for the guy and he didn't treat me well. I was naïve as that had been my first and only relationship. It was honestly a shock that he wanted to get engaged. Anyway I told him I wanted to break it off and I felt horrible. I was in tears for days, kept telling him I was sorry. At the same time, I was sure about the decision.
The point is I don't know how to relate to these spouses who cheat and leave without any regret, especially with kids. As stated above I left someone and I felt horrible.
The logic of these spouses who leave is very twisted and they clearly have character flaws that we didn't see when we chose to marry them.
I hope your wife at least reads your text and thinks about it. You have a right to say those things. I wish you a peaceful closure to this disaster and I hope you find a new lady who exceeds your expectations and loves you forever.
