Somehow I switched to desperate mode now, and I want to go and beg her to give us a chance. I know it will not work though. Again feel very lost and depressed.
You're right, that never, ever works. Most of us tried it before finding DB'ing.
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I got the Divorce Busting book and read half of it. Very interesting, but so far I see very limited application in my situation, when she does not actually want to work on relationship.
Much of the book is specifically about one person working on things while the other doesn't want to, it's the whole point of the chapter called "It Takes One to Tango".
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I am thinking if we shall go to the next counseling session (set on the 19.01) as she said, that for her it is divorce-counseling that will ease the process and get us to mutual understanding.
Yes quite right. We advise people here to drop marriage counseling when dealing with a WAS because the WAS will only use it as an excuse to separate and/ or divorce. That money would be better spent on a DB coach (for you alone).
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but on the other hand I constantly read stories, where one of the partners does not consider R at first, but after 4-6 counseling sessions something changes.
You do? I've never heard of MC bringing a WAS back.
Originally Posted By: Mav82
Emotional update: Yesterday I had a nice evening with a friend in a bar. Today however I woke up completely trashed with emotional roller-coaster taking over, so I could not get me out of bed until 10am.
Sorry you're going through this! You do have hope of recon, but it's going to take a lot longer than you might think. You've got to remove all pressure from your W (no MC, no talking about the R, no pressure for sex, etc.) Get out and GAL. Focus on becoming the spouse only a fool would leave.
