New LBS dealing with WW Part 3

[Surfer]

Joe,

This is the hardest bit. No matter what you say, little, lots or NC you get it in the neck. They try to get you to leave, argue, hit them.....all sorts. Just focus on not reacting. By all means listen if you can handle it but know that whatever comes out is most likely a lie or something to draw you into an argument. Do not take the bait - it won’t work in your favour. Just listen and validate or exit and stay quiet.

Do not act like a doormat. Just carry on being you and try to take an “Oh dear, never mind” approach. Imaging she is engaged having rant. That’s all she has reverted to. No different. Just be the parent. Stay quiet and tell calmly. Feel sorry for her not angry at her. But again, do not get drawn in. Every question or statement from her will be an invitation for an arguement.

You might need to practice some standard stock lines. “Sounds Like you are really upset”. “Sounds tough”. There’s a few pages of them somewhere in other posts.

Keep strong. You can do this.

Surfer.