My idea to separate has been an epic fail

[Caz49]

H made plans to take my children out today...only he didn't contact my eldest, whose available. My son is hurt, he says he's not but he is as he projecting onto me.

My H probably thought the other two would give him the details but he's yet to learn after 23 years of raising (I use that term with irony) children, that they don't like to be overlooked, ignored, lumped together etc.

He also does this repeatedly with my eldest. They have a tenuous relationship at best...you'd think my H would try to nurture it. But I know firsthand, when the going gets tough, this coward ducks, dives, avoids and ignores.

I'm not getting involved, but it hurts to see my son hurting.