I got the Divorce Busting book and read half of it. Very interesting, but so far I see very limited application in my situation, when she does not actually want to work on relationship.
I am thinking if we shall go to the next counseling session (set on the 19.01) as she said, that for her it is divorce-counseling that will ease the process and get us to mutual understanding. At first I said - then it is useless. but on the other hand I constantly read stories, where one of the partners does not consider R at first, but after 4-6 counseling sessions something changes.
Question, what shall I focus on during counseling session? She will obviously say, what she said above - it's Divorce counseling. During first session she said that she needs time and space, and in some months she might change her point of view.
Longer I think about it, the more I understand that the first issue to be solved is her absence of trust towards me. So I think it might an option, to say, that I understand that our old R is over, but I want to use counseling to rebuild the Trust.
