None of us believe D would happen to us. If we did none of us would ever get married. You say she has pulled the big D card for 13-14 years. Why has she done that? How did your addiction affect your M?

Me:39 W:36
S:12 D:9
T:14 M:11
Separation:sep. 1 2017
D filed oct. 2017
D finalized july 2018
OM confirmed feb 2018
D finalized July 2018

The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.