Wife wont admit to affair and its driving me nuts!

[Morbo]

Vanilla wrote

My thoughts are that you are experiencing level 6 (the highest level) abuse.

Frankly this is some of the most awful behaviour of any wayward I have read on this board, and there has been some terrible things.

Most of it is truly nasty and unpleasant, and I have been on the receiving end of a great deal. I was beginning to doubt that this was real although some of it particularly the raging, gaslighting, cheating and entitlement is stuff I recognise too well.

The other aspect here of seeing you as a target (not a victim) is that you are denying it and blaming Yourself

It is called denial.

Thank you. I appreciate this so much.

I reached out and talked to a lot of people today, good friends
and realized it is not all my fault. She has really raged at me
today, confused me and if it wasnt for the level, experienced people on this board I probably would have caved in and apologized(or something). I also talked to friends who saw the offensive FB posts and called to see if I was ok. I explained my side of everything , the proof, her denial, her absolute rage at me for everything and got great support and validation.
I do see that she is completely wrong and frankly she is starting to scare me a bit. Her father who is completely on my side(by the way) has said to me numerous times that she needs help.

Do not delete these emails etc, if you seek primary custody of your children then you will need them.

I have all old emails as well as texts and have been recording our conversations for the past 2 weeks.

Putting your sexual health at risk in this way is physical abuse. Please get tested and ensure you have a syphilis test. Some of her behaviour could be syphilis infection too. From there you may need to determine if your children should be tested, I do hope not.

Not sure about this but we havent had sex in 5 months??

I'm hoping this will be the worst for now. She's been embarrassed in front of my family and most people on FB are not listening to her childish bs, except for a couple of new sycophant friends.

I dont really intend on telling anyone else about the affair and am just looking after my girls and trying to keep our relationship purely business and cordial if she'll allow it.

I'm going to go on to the abuse thread now.

Thanks :-)