Sandi's Reflections - Part 2

[sandi2]

I appreciate your words, Jim. And, I want to say something I meant to add earlier. This is not a list of complaints that women may have about their H's. To me, complaints are when he forgets to set out the heavy trash, doesn't diaper the baby while she's cooking a meal, etc. These are serious ways he causes the breakdown in his MR.... In which he can lose his W's attraction, cause deep resentment in her heart, and eventually lose her respect. These are ways that the H has a direct negative influence on the relationship with his W.

If examined, some of these negative contributions can be found in SSM's. The H may "think" his W has sexual LD, and he may even be correct. But many times the reason that really caused her LD can be found in him. Even in MR's where the couple may have regular sex, but the W is "doing it" for his sake.....or b/c he is easier to live with......can find a woman who is enduring unresolved issues that started and ends with her H. These are things that affect the relationship long term. Attraction definitely affects her feminine response to him.

Many women endure an unhappiness that can be linked to her H's behavior. These are all about him, and they are choices he makes.......but they affect her and her children.

And gentlemen, let me assure you that I realize there is a list for women, too. However, I feel more comfortable trying to inform men about the things that affect the women in long term relationships.

For those who believe in the Old Testament, you will see how God made the woman's desire unto her H, and He gave the man the awesome responsibility for being the head. For which much is given, much is required! He designed woman's loving feelings for her H to be tied to her respect for him.

The New Testament teaches the Christian W to submit herself to her H. (Many misintrepret the meaning of the King James version). She is being instructed to respect her H. However, look at the H's instruction. He is told to love his W like Christ loves His Church. Honestly, I think the H's responsibility is much greater. Maybe that is why God made him the initiator and made her the responder. Oddly enough, the H's number one need is to be admired, and the W's number one need is to be cherished. The scripture tells us how. Thousands upon thousands of religious and secular books have been written to tell us how. Apparently, there are a lot of us that don't read, or we don't apply what we read.