Gordie, That note would have driven me crazy. Everyone is right about ignoring it, but I would have wanted to leave her one saying that you were ready for her to start treating YOU like her husband again.
Your hard work is starting to pay off as she is showing signs she hasn't shown before. She isn't ready, but she is moving along. The hard part is knowing whether you will want to reconcile once she IS done baking. What I have been telling myself to that question is that OF COURSE I don't want to reconcile with the body snatcher. It isn't her! I assume that I would feel differently if my WIFE came back to herself and wanted to fix things, its just been so long since I've seen HER that I almost don't remember what that feels like. Hard to say for sure, but you are doing an impressive job!! Keep it up...you will thank yourself later.
You are the prize and are worth every minute of time you spend on yourself!! I know you aren't interested in dating right now, but you'd be a catch if you ever threw yourself back in to the dating pool...remember that!
