I really don't get your W at all. I mean how is living together in the same house and raising kids together any different than M, because you're not having sex I guess? I don't understand why anyone that wants a D would want to keep living with that same person, it's just perplexing.
Tell me about it. My W's other idea is to build a granny unit in the backyard and I assume she will live in it. I didn't give an answer to that, but I do find it a little creepy to have your ex living in the backyard.
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
If they were younger I would say to wait until your W is preparing to move out before telling them. But at their ages, they're going to know things aren't right and I think the two of you should sit down with them and have a discussion. Don't tell them you're getting a D but maybe just tell them the two of you are struggling with your relationship and trying to decide what to do. Make sure to emphasize that it has nothing to do with them and no matter what happens that BOTH of you will be there for them always.
AS, thanks for this advice. I was watching the HBO series Divorce and what the father says when the parents tell the kids was perfect. Worth writing down and repeating because he said exactly what you should say and nothing more.
