It has been about 30 days since she moved back home. It has been really nice, after all that has happened I think that it goes without saying that I would be a little nervous. I will say this though, all of her actions have shown commitment to our MR, and most importantly and what I feel is the biggest tell tell, my W seems very happy, I have not seen her this happy in over a year. I decided to put my ring back on and when she noticed her face lit up, she put hers on and has been wearing it since.
Wow!! Well that's fantastic, congrats! Are you two planning on going to MC? The one pitfall of reconciling is often people think "oh great we're back to normal!" and then fall back into old habits. It's important to work through the issues that led to separation and come up with tools to prevent it from happening again.
Also please check into Retrouvaille, it is perfect for couples that are in the early stages of reconciliation.
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I have not been able to post as I do not want the W to know about this site yet, (I hope one day she would be open to sharing her thoughts, intentions, views through out this process on this site).
Please do not ever tell her about this site or the books. Your journey has been genuine, but if she finds out about your time here she might believe (as many WAS's do) that all of your actions were scripted as tricks to get her back. And DB'ing isn't something you do until you get your spouse back and then dismiss it, DB'ing is FOREVER. The techniques you've learned here should become a permanent part of who you are. If she starts slipping away again you'll need to implement DB'ing, but now you know the warning signs and what to do, so you should be able to catch it early enough to get back on track before she walks. If she knows about DB'ing then her tendency will be "oh I see, he's doing Sandi's rules on me trying to get me back again, well that's not going to work." Do you see what I'm saying? Take your DB secrets to the grave.
