She's still very invested in the kids, and talking about how we will still be in each other's lives, going to holidays together at each other's family houses, how I will be welcome at her relatives, how we could even do vacations together, etc.
She seems to think we'll be as close to a normal family as possible, just not us living together. She had a childhood friend whose parents divorced, stayed within 'bike riding' distance, and always did holidays together until they married other people and it became impractical. That is her model for what a divorce will be like, I think.
I want what is going to be best for the kids, but I don't see this happening, at least not like she thinks. I don't think I will be able to do it, at all. Maybe just the four of us for birthdays/etc, but not the rest of it.
I think they have very unrealistic views of what divorce will be like. If you read my thread, my W suggested we continue to live together in the same house. My W and probably yours too, seems to think a divorce will solve the problems but they will still be able to keep all the good things associated with the MR. Unfortunately, the reality of it probably doesn't set in until after they start to experience the results of the divorce.
