You are correct in your judgement. She had her own issues which were amplified by my actions and lack of empathy towards my W. I also spent noy enough time with the kids.
My biggest question is which 180s shall I implement first, not to break the fragile peace we have? She told me yesterday, that she did not start the financial talks, as she was affraid it will turn into war with me. German law says tgat while separated, my W can get about 1/3 of my net imcome, which is a significant amount.
She also said she started to look for another Appartment, as it is my house and it hurts her that kids come and say dad leaves in a small room. On ine side I am very unhappy with my situation, and I am being depressed with it, on the other her stayimg in the House is better for kids, as they have space to play and also does not detach her from our past completely. I mighy be wrong in my judgement though, so I would appreciate your thoughts and ideas. I find generally hard to go dark and completely detach when you have kids. Any experience will be helpful.
