Adjusting to being a LBS....

[Subitai]

This was another temp check. Many, many stories have been told about WW's tempting their H by wearing skimpy clothes, or nothing at all. If he doesn't give her attention, she may start rubbing up against him or whatever, b/c it is a test to see if she still has him in the palm of her hand.

Is there no difference between WW and WAW in these situations? I'm still pretty sure there is no OM, but I wouldn't be the first person to be totally blindsided by finding out there is at least an EA if not a PA going on.

She's still very invested in the kids, and talking about how we will still be in each other's lives, going to holidays together at each other's family houses, how I will be welcome at her relatives, how we could even do vacations together, etc.

She seems to think we'll be as close to a normal family as possible, just not us living together. She had a childhood friend whose parents divorced, stayed within 'bike riding' distance, and always did holidays together until they married other people and it became impractical. That is her model for what a divorce will be like, I think.

I want what is going to be best for the kids, but I don't see this happening, at least not like she thinks. I don't think I will be able to do it, at all. Maybe just the four of us for birthdays/etc, but not the rest of it.