Most lbs don't have a chance to verbalise their side of things to their WAS. When they do, the simplefact of doing so realises good feelings in them. This is mostly because pent up thoughts have been released. Part of it is also that they have made the WAS aware of their side of things. The latter is a misconception and should not be the goal. waS only get your point when they are receptive. Otherwise no matter how often or how you do so, you are not heard.
I bet you felt better after outlining your stance. It is normal.Now that it has been said, restating it cannot help. Refusingto do so as job suggested may actually help you be heard.
I would advise you to ignore the note. If she pushes you on it, say it isn't that simple anymore and leave it at that. Do not slow your moving on plans. You can always change them later. Not moving forward will prove to her she still has you, which means she can keep you on hold as plan B.
You are doing all the right things and saying the right things. You are doing good. Keep strong. Read the thread job recently added to the resources section from Zeus.
Remember actions speak louder than words. Hers and YOURS.
Best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
