On New Years Eve we went to a friends house for a long hike and then brunch. My W for some reason wanted to drive separately. So I drove all the girls and she was in her car behind us the whole way. The reason seems she didn't plan on doing the actual hike and drove straight to the house.
I spent the afternoon doing yard work, mainly working on a chicken coop I'm building. Later inside the house, D11 asked me if I was going to the party with mommy. Nope, didn't even know the W was going out for NYE. At about 7pm, my W left and while going out the door mumbled "see you later." I was a little depressed but not too much. I have no idea where she went. I watched TV shows (Divorce on HBO, poignant and funny), and went to bed at about 10:30pm.
On New Years I woke and found my W on the couch on her iPhone. I said good morning. We went as a family, all together in the same car this time, to a friend's for an afternoon party. It was a gorgeous day and we sat outside and everybody had a lot of fun. It was a small gathering of close friends, but W and I hardly interact other than a game of Pictionary with the kids. We were there from about 11:30am through 5pm. One interesting thing was I was sitting and overhead a conversation between my W and another friend who was saying how her parents (who are also friends of ours) almost got divorced twice in their early 40s and then again in their late 40s. I suspect my W has not told anybody of this circle of friends about her thoughts on divorce.
When we got home, I told everybody in the car while in front of the house, "Happy New Year and here's to a good 2018." Getting out of the car, my W put her hand on my chest. She has told me before she values these family times together, and I take her touch as nothing more than that she had a good family day too.
My W left to go to Brazilian jujitsu and came home after I retired to the bedroom.
I received an email reminder of remaining availability of the next Retrouvaille in the area. I really want to send it to my W. It takes a lot of faith to not pursue.
