So, today is the fourth day in a row that she has not contacted me at all since I started NC. What are the most likely reasons for this?
I would say the most likely reason is she doesn't want to talk to you. One of the things I learned from Sandi that was quite an eye-opener is that often the WAS is just sick and tired of the LBS. They usually don't like the LBS and sometimes even hate them. They are heaping a lot of blame and resentment on the LBS, and every time the LBS texts or emails or calls it's just a reminder of how much they hate communication with them. So when you go NC, it FINALLY gives them a break. It gives them some room to breathe. LBSs tend to think the WAS is so broken up about losing the LBS that all the LBS has to do is say the right thing and the WAS will come running back. So the LBS keeps trying and trying to "say" whatever that magic phrase is. But there isn't one, and all that talking and contact is just pressure on the WAS when they want zero pressure. Every bit of pressure just makes things worse.
Anyway what you should not be doing right now is fretting over why she's not contacting you. NC is for YOU, not her. You go NC to gather yourself up, change your focus, recharge and develop a plan for moving YOURSELF forward from here.
