I've struggled with porn addiction for years. Quit for a year, became ill (low thyroid, fungal infection, etc.), started again, now regaining my health/sobriety. We have a SSM on steroids. I have much trust to rebuild if I get the chance.
Id recommend switching your focus from 'saving the M' to 'getting yourself to a place where you are happy and comfortable with yourself'. What kind of work are you doing in that sense (aside from, Im assuming, quitting porn cold turkey)?
Originally Posted By: Natural
After BD, I initially reacted poorly. I told W I wanted her to get a full-time job. Argument ensued.
This sounds like a different issue than just sex. Does she not work? Are you resentful? What has your home life been like for 30 years?
Originally Posted By: Natural
I honored her request and moved my stuff to the spare bathroom.
Why? I assume this means that you are the one who was displaced from the master bedroom? Again, why?
We can't afford to live separately. I'm working on GAL. That seems to be helping.
Originally Posted By: Natural
I've apologized repeatedly. Probably need to keep doing that.
