Thanks for the responses. I do struggle with this part of dealing with MLC.
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Here's a suggestion...don't tell him that you need to reduce contact between you.
Yes, Job... that makes so much sense! But too late now. It's not the first time I've told him I want to limit contact. Won't do it again!
Sotto - couldn't agree more that the frequent contacters do present dilemnas to navigate around. I can drive myself crazy regarding what is the right way to handle things.
Gordie - the contradiction between wanting a divorce and wanting also to be BFF's must drive you up the wall. My H isn't asking for a D yet, but I think I would agree to one right now if he does ask. Then I would move on and not want any contact with him. I would still pine for him though, I'm sure.
I will continue with the NC for now and see how things go. I am afraid that frequent periods of NC will eventually push him away entirely and I don't want that. So my decisions on the NC issue are partly based on what I need but I expect I will soon let it slide because of my fear he will disappear for good.
