I am so sorry about the spill that your mother took. I know you are still reliving the accident in your mind, but you've got to stop being so hard on yourself. The accident was not intentional and anyone could have had that happen. You are only human and things do happen. I know that you are grateful that your mom is okay and you should breathe a sign of relief.
It's not easy trying to take care of the elderly when they are frail and especially if dementia sets in...as bttrly pointed out, all we can do is love them do our best in taking care of them. That's really all they ask of us.
As for other family members not stepping up to the plate...I've got the same issue in my own immediate family. I pray every day that my sister will get her act together and open her eyes and realize that our mother is getting older and doesn't need to hear and see the drama in my sister's family. Resentment does come into play so much so, that there are times I'd like to throttle my sister, but then I take a deep breath and realize that my expectations of what she should be doing are set too high and then I let it go.
Sotto, here's to a new year. I hope that 2018 will be a far better one for you and your family.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
