Here's a suggestion...don't tell him that you need to reduce contact between you. Just do it...actions speak louder than words. Why? Because the more you tell him to reduce the contact, the more determine he will be to stay in touch. He can't miss you if you are there and readily communicate w/him. Set your boundaries and adhere to them. You don't have to tell/remind him of what your boundaries are...again, actions speak louder than words.
Only contact him if it's an emergency or a need to know deal. Leave him to his space. You've got things to do as it is a new year. Keep the focus on you!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
