in fact whenever she wants to discuss feelings I cut her off.
In your post, this jumped out at me. If this has been going on a while, I suspect this has a lot to do with her wanting a divorce.
Jim, no I usually do listen. It through AS on this site that I eventually developed my validation skills. My cutting her off was in this instance because I didn't want to listen to her tell me how she does love me and so forth. It's too painful.
