Dangit really? Say nothing? I’m having real trouble with saying nothing. I understand your point; but dang. I know if I say nothing I’m going to get wrath.
....and there is my fear kicking in. I’m frightful she will be mad at me; what the heck is that?! I thought I was over that.
You have been "conditioned" to fear her anger. That's why you get so anxious when she starts texting, and why you feel you still have to console her ten years after her father passed away. She uses anniversaries and other special dates to guilt you giving her the attention she demands. However, she doesn't appreciate it. How can she, when she demands it and uses it to control you?
Gordie: Glad you have a sense of humor.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
